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Happy National Orgasm Day

Today, I have just learned from Katherine Feeney’s column in the Sydney Morning Herald, is National Orgasm Day (NOD). What that is and how you celebrate it remains a little opaque to me*. Will there be organised pageantry and fireworks later on? Should one share this knowledge with a loved one? Or simply mark the occasion alone?

But my recent post on the function of orally-induced orgasm stimulated so much discussion, I thought I’d dip into the pages of Archives of Sexual Behaviour for an appropriate reading to mark NOD. And the journal did not disappoint.

The paper I chose, so steaming hot out of peer review that it has only just been published online, concerned female orgasm as a signal. Readers of my previous column might recall my irritation that the social feedback of unselfish stimulation and orgasmic response seemed to be a missing dimension in the Evolutionary Psychology paper that precipitated that post.

Today’s paper tested two predictions concerning womens' orgasms as signals. First, that orgasms signal a woman’s sexual satisfaction and thus her likely fidelity as a partner (the Female Fidelity hypothesis). And second that women orgasm to signal an increased chance of conception (the Sire Choice hypothesis). Yes, I know it seems a little man-centric to frame these questions with reference to the man, rather than the subject of the orgasm herself. But at least we’re talking about orgasms as part of the give-and-take commerce of sex and satisfaction.

The authors, Ryan M. Ellsworth from the University of Missouri and Carnegie Mellon’s Drew H. Bailey, administered a questionnaire to 138 women and 121 men, each currently in a heterosexual romantic relationship. Through a rather exhaustive bank of questions, they estimated each participant’s relationship satisfaction, partner investment, sexual fidelity, sexual behaviour and orgasm history.

Women reported orgasming during sexual intercourse 61% of the time. More than half of the women (58%) reported faking orgasms sometimes, with 18% of copulations with current partners resulting in faked orgasms. Men, you might not be surprised to learn, underestimated the rate of faked orgasms. Only 21% reported that their partners faked, and only estimated that women faked about 5% of the time. Women who faked a lot also reported having fewer real orgasms.

The other main findings by which Ellsworth and Bailey tested their hypotheses included:

  • Women satisfied in their relationships also reported orgasming more intensely and more frequently.
  • Women whose partners invested plenty of effort in them and their relationships also had more intense and more frequent orgasms.
  • Women who reported past infidelity reported having more orgasms.
  • Women who report being open to future opportunities for infidelity reported having more orgasms, and more intense orgasms.
  • Women who reported having past infidelity or openness to future infidelity also reported more frequently faking orgasms.
  • Men in satisfying relationships reported higher rates of partner orgasm and lower rates of partner faked orgasm.
  • Men who have been unfaithful to their partners report that those partners have fewer orgasms.

Taken together, these results suggest that female orgasm and faked orgasm are involved in the quality and dynamics of the relationship, but in more nuanced and complex ways than predicted by the two hypotheses being tested. Female orgasm does not seem to signal female fidelity, and frequent, intense orgasms don’t seem to convince men of their partner’s fidelity. Instead, it seems that faked orgasms are associated with past and likely future infidelity.

It seems more likely that genuine orgasm is either a happy cause or a thrilling consequence of relationship satisfaction. So far so good, but it also seems that a high rate of both true and faked orgasm makes for an especially high chance of infidelity. Given the prevalence of the faked orgasm, and men’s ineptitude at detecting it, perhaps this is one of those cases in which the fake is at least as interesting as the original?

Well, scientifically at least.


* I have elsewhere seen it claimed that National Orgasm Day is to be celebrated on every day that ends in a “Y”

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  1. Dale Bloom

    Analyst

    I have noticed something.

    Throughout the author’s articles, he always portrays men as dangerous or stupid or ignorant, or in the case of this article, men are regarded as “inept”.

    If that is the case, men should immediately stop giving his university money.

    His university wouldn’t want to be tainted with money that came from men.

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  2. Peter Anderson-Stewart
    Peter Anderson-Stewart is a Friend of The Conversation.

    Medical scientist

    As far as I could see, it was a bit of a filler article, that a lot of those ones that appear to pop up are on the SMH, but stupidly, I clicked on it anyway (it's a slow news day here in Ust-Kamenogorsk, although I am sure we will have fireworks here for some confected reason or another ...).

    I remain, however, a little confused by her statement ... that they were “very happy” with the frequency of their climatic experiences. ...

    Perhaps that's half the problem there, mine have always been climactic experiences, I am obviously doing it all wrong ...

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  3. Michael Wilbur-Ham (MWH)

    Writer (ex telecommunications engineer)

    Yes - the article is available on the internet - for only US$40.

    In my opinion this research is not deserving of public (USA) funding because the research has not been made available for free to the public.

    What I find surprising about this research is that to me it seems to come out of the 1950's. Because I write about a sexual technique that include some tantra and tao I'm not typical - but even so, are things really still this bad?

    To me the thing about faking orgasms is that it is faking…

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    1. Pat Moore

      gardener

      In reply to Michael Wilbur-Ham (MWH)

      Though this one's hit the top of the pops as usual Rob, its responses seem unusually thin on the ground? Possibly to do with the problem you cited in the text of the nature of the male centric/egocentric notion of looking for signals....in a labcoat- attitude, even more off putting. Though fake orgasm no doubt is a clear signal (performed theatrically with the delicate male ego in mind) to cease and desist for whatever reason. But authentic engagement wouldn't require signals and with the modern addictions of falsified, pornographied sexual programing privileging the visual sense over others, darkness, removing visual distraction and movie/porn star Logie performances and giving space for the other senses, may be the antidote for sexual dissatisfaction and lack or orgasm.

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