The international aid sector's use of languages needs to change if it is serious about dealing with the issues raised by recent scandals.
It's all too easy to miss the point about sex work in areas hit by conflict and disaster. How about listening to the people who experience it?
Regulation adds operational costs that are often inefficient to the delivery of services, or even completely unnecessary.
To stop sexual exploitation in the aid sector, more self-regulation by NGOs isn't the answer.
Oxfam is not the first charity to be drawn into a high profile scandal. If it is to survive it needs draw on its core ideals.
Most overseas aid workers remain largely cut off from the people they are in emergency settings to help.
After a scandal involving Oxfam in Haiti, the UK government has threatened to withdraw aid money from the charity.
Shocking allegations of abuse by Oxfam aid workers in Haiti are testament to how badly the aid sector needs deep, systemic reform.
Power imbalances and inequality lie at the heart of the international development industry. But the Oxfam scandal shows that organisations mustn't succumb to it.